Monthly Archives: February 2013

More Nipples Than You Can Flick A Tongue At

busty babeNipples are wonderful things aren’t they, I mean to have them is great because they can be so much fun. And of course your partner having them is rather handy because they are an obvious and prominent erogenous zone. Let’s face it us guys need to have things like that pointed out to us and if a sensitive area is a different colour than the surrounding skin and tends to stand up, especially if aroused then it does make it easier for us to find.

Maybe that’s why the clitoris stands up like that, especially when you ladies get aroused. It means we can’t miss it, even in the dark. Though we are always told to look for the little guy in the canoe as a visual aid too if we’re actually looking rather than feeling our way around.

Anyway, back to nipples.

This isn’t a post about how much we guys love you girls to have them, that’s very obvious and while I’m not averse to stating the obvious in this instance I’m talking about the number of nipples you have.

“I have two” I hear you cry. Obvious really, everyone has two don’t they?

No they don’t. I don’t, I have a number of extra ones. Oddly I didn’t know they were nipples until a few years back because they are the least obtrusive of supernumerary nipples, yes they have a name, supernumerary nipples. Mine are inverted, just slight inversions of the skin on my abdomen and only noticeable since a doctor pointed them out to me.

So does anyone else have any out there?

Just askin’

 

One Week To Go To Win $50

There’s only one week left in the erotic to story writing competition over at Kinky Halo. If you fancy trying your hand at writing erotica and being in with a chance of getting it published, and perhaps winning the $50 prize pop across to the site and read the competition rules. They cover the theme, size of the story and how to enter.

Good luck and remember the competition closes at midnight (GMT) on 28 February 2013.

Post Child Birth Sex

Post Childbirth SexThis post was prompted by an email I received the other day from a reader who I will refer to as “C” and I thought I would cover the subject here.

The email read.

My wife and I had our first baby last month and whilst she did not have a c-section she did require stitches. These have healed but she is understandably a little uneasy regarding us having sex. I am not in a hurry and support her all the way but wondered if you had covered this in previous articles.

I’m sure most people will be able to empathise with this situation.  After all giving birth to a child is like trying to squeeze out a large melon through a small hole and it’s common place to perform an episiotomy rather than have the skin tear.  Extending the vaginal opening to facilitate delivery requires stitching afterwards and the very act of cutting through the flesh means nerve endings can be uncomfortable for a while.

At this point in time penetration is the last thing the new mother wants.   She will also be tired from the commitments of being a mother to a young baby who makes unremitting demands on her time.  It’s easy to refrain from sexual contact during the first few months because one or both of you are to be quite honest, knackered.

Investing in some good massage oil and indulging in some sensual massage will help you both chill out and bring a little intimacy without committing to full on sex.

This would also be a good time to invest in a massager which you can use on each other to soothe those aching muscles or a sex toy.  You could hold it against his perineum or just under the head of his penis to stimulate him.

And if she is still sensitive down below the massager could be held over her clitoris, clitoral orgasms can be just as intense as penetrative ones. There are many ways to be intimate with each other without full on sexual intercourse and when she is ready you can use the massager as part of your foreplay.

Where Are All The Filthy American Sex Writers?

Lezzing It Up On The Four PosterWe launched a competition last month over on Kinky Halo with a prize of $50 for the best school sex fantasy story. We have a large US readership over on that site but the entries for the competition that have come in have been disproportionately British.

What’s going on America, where’s your filthy imagination? We know you have one so this post is just a reminder to get over and read the rules of the competition.

Let your imagination run wild and be in with a chance of winning the prize.

Being A Virgin Full Of Lust

Couple In BedWe are running a competition over on KinkyHalo.com, the theme is School Fantasy Stories – you can read the rules and how to enter on this page.

Reading the entries we have had so far has been a bit of a revelation to me because I found myself considering how I felt when I was at school, struggling through puberty as we all do with various levels of angst, trepidation, excitement and above all raging hormones that stop you thinking straight and leave you a confused mess. It’s exhilarating to be young and a virgin from a boy’s perspective.

What I didn’t realise at the time was that it’s pretty much the same for girls, though they act on and express their feeling of lust rather differently than us boys.

It doesn’t matter what sex you are, or indeed your orientation because sexual desire is as strong for every one of us. How we act upon those desires, how we are able to act upon those desires is what dictates how and when we find our first love and our first sexual encounter.

Something that has always annoyed me is that when it comes to sex young people in Britain carry the baggage of centuries of hypocrisy. It’s not the old “stiff upper lip”, don’t show any emotion attitude that ticks me off it’s the fact that we all have sex, we always have had sex, the population of this sceptre isle was not derived from millions of immaculate conceptions.

Now of course that doesn’t mean that those conceptions were in wildly sexual and adventurous relationships, the nature of marriage for all societies has often had as much to do with expediency, politics and convenience as it has with love and lust. However the sexual act took place to create almost every one of us with the exception of those created by IVF, and even they are the product of loving parents who will have engaged in those sexual acts.

It’s the denial of the fact that sex takes place in the face of an often debauched and non-monogamous society that annoys me. The high morals espoused by British society of the 19th and early 20th century were at odds with a hidden world (for some at least) of infidelity and consorting with prostitutes. It’s only just 40 years ago that homosexuality stopped being a criminal offence and yet many prominent public figures in the judiciary, government and the arts were and indeed are homosexual yet had to lead double lives.

So back to my point about how we are able to act on those desires.

Sniggering at school about sex is a British institution, I’d prefer we giggled. You see sniggering implies derision in the same way that it seems automatic for some people to deride anything they are unfamiliar with or scared of. We should be encouraging our kids to be excited about the prospects of friendships, relationships, dating and sex – and yes I mean in that order.

In the 1960s “Free Love” encouraged promiscuity and in some circles that meant that not being free with your love meant you were an outsider. The outcome of which was that I’ve seen and read interviews with women who felt used and abused by men during this time. Their experience of free love was not at all loving and came at a great cost to them while allowing immature and sometimes predatory partners, yes predominantly men, to indulge their carnal desires without any conscience or consideration.

We need to accept that sex will happen and ensure that our kids’ experience of it is fantastic by ensuring they know how to make friends, build relationships, respect the opposite sex and understand sex and their own sexuality. That way when they do engage in that most amazing of physical activities they do it safely, for the right reason and enjoy every second of it.

From Feta To Pastrami

Valentina NappiThe title of this post adequately describes my foray in to booking a Summer vacation.  It’s a while since Alex and I went on holiday, it was in fact Tuscany in 2010.  So although we are very careful about how we spend our money we both felt the need for a break somewhere nice this year.

Question was, where?

It was all too easy to opt for another break in Italy, we both loved it, the food and the people.  But at the same time there are so many other places to visit.  I had Greece and Turkey in reserve, never visited either.

We decided to go and see a tour operator and see if they could make a suggestion which would entice us to book.  Well I must say we probably got one of the worst tour operators to sit down with.  I approached her desk as it was the first one which was vacant and proceeded to sit down.

She didn’t acknowledge me for at least 5 minutes then said I won’t be a moment, at which point I asked if I should go and find someone who wasn’t busy.  Eventually she smartened up and brought us a handful of brochures.

Then we looked at the prices for a quiet, potentially villa holiday for the two of us and our jaws dropped.  It was a ridiculous amount as most villas are made to accommodate a family.  We were obviously spoilt on our Tuscan holiday.  It was a villa new to the market and you got a car thrown if with it for much less.

So we decided to look at something more exotic if we were going to have to fork out that much.  Eventually deciding to take some USA brochures with us.  Something we had never considered doing before, obviously based on costs.  But as it looked like nothing quiet and away from the tourist traps was going to be available at a reasonable cost why not look at going to the States.

Italy was always a firm favourite after our Tuscan break but when we got reading the brochures for the USA we couldn’t resist.

So, what did we go back and book?

A week in Summer staying in NYC!  We are both so excited, I will be crossing the dates off my calendar from now until then.

Is it Summer yet?  lol