I’m no pussy in the bedroom. Ok, let me rephrase that. I used to be shy to say exactly what turned me on what I wanted from my partner, mainly due to my lack of self confidence and lack of experience.
These days we both ask if there is anything we would like to try and I don’t think either of us have hit on anything which the other objected to participating in. We have indulged in light bondage, spanking, golden showers and everything in between.
It has been a voyage of discovery and self discovery, and I don’t think I am talking out of turn when I say that applies to both of us.
I certainly don’t feel that I have been demanding or over insistent about anything. In fact this is a fairly democratic household with most things. For me a relationship is about sharing, not enforcing ones ideas and principles upon the other.
It appears that we may be one of the few in this respect. I just read in the paper that a third of men are too frightened to have sex because of their forceful partners. They are pinning this down to women being more demanding and expectant because of information given in magazines and on the Internet about what to expect in terms of foreplay and other aspects of sex.
How do you feel about this? Do you feel that your partner is making unfair demands on you, or do you like the woman to take control? It would be interesting to have some feedback on this. 😉