A report I read in a daily newspaper just made me realise how fortunate I am to have a partner who is also a partner in my adult life and activities.
For me leaving sex toys around and testing them at impromptu moments isn’t a problem, likewise if he wishes to take a new toy to the bedroom for testing I will often accompany him and we can enjoy the experience together.
We both review porn DVD’s and quite frequently watch them together without embarrassment or anguish. Truth of the matter is we are both so comfortable and secure with each other that the adult world can be explored and enjoyed together.
Some aren’t as lucky as to be able to share their naughty side and have to resort to doing it in secret which is a shame because I do believe that these experiences are wonderful to share. But I can also see the excitement of having a secret “other” side which your partner doesn’t know about.
The problem with that for me is that I don’t like to live a double life, I know I do already in a way because my friends and family know nothing about my “day job”. For me there would be an element of guilt at my lack of honesty, although I do understand that some partners are so anti porn and toys that the only way to be true to yourself is to be secretive.
Not wanting to stereotype anyone but I’m assuming that the women are usually anti porn whilst the men are unhappy about their partner wanting to use toys. What do you think?
You can read the full story of the survey on men’s surfing habits here it makes for interesting reading.