I don’t know if this a psychological or physiological thing but sometimes my clit just doesn’t want to play and no matter how much I try to stimulate it with an adult toy it just isn’t having it.
You can get so close, really aroused and almost coming but edge all the way through a potential orgasm. Experience tells me that it’s not always the product I’m testing that’s not quite delivering.
Sometimes it is down to the sex toy not hitting the mark or a lack of lubrication around your clitoris. The simple addition of water based lubricant or even spit can aid clitoral stimulation. It took me a while to realise this but the wetter you are when indulging in clitoral play the more you tend to feel.
This became apparent, particularly during my sex toy testing throughout the Summer months. I was obviously drying out with the heat and not realising it. A few drops of lube sorted this out and enabled me to continue to enjoy playing with my toys.
The need to use a sexual lubricant isn’t always apparent, especially when you believe that your personal levels are usually adequate. But sometimes, particularly during the Summer months you can be quite arid when it comes to natural lubrication and additional help is required. Plus as we get older all women can require additional help with lubrication.
However if lubrication is there and you have the right toy to hand you can still find yourself on the verge of an orgasm but never quite reaching it. Change the batteries and make sure the damn thing is charged, that’s caught me out before! Thinking my favourite rechargeable clitoral vibrator is fully charged and actually it being on the verge of fizzling out – a quick charge and woohoo! Or using batteries that have been hanging around in a drawer for years only to realise after a disappointing session with a bullet that they expired two years earlier Lol.
Finally there’s what I alluded to at the beginning, the problem can be in your head. If you’re tense, pissed off or just too tired your brain seems to be wired differently and no amount of industrial strength stimulation on that wonderful little bud between your vaginal lips will get you off.
My advice? Fresh batteries or a good long recharge on your clitoral stimulator, a nice hot bath, a glass of wine and some lube. Then you can lay back and let the magic happen.
And when you do cum, let yourself go. Fuck the neighbours, let them bang on the wall. Scream your heart out and feel those endorphins course through your body.