Exotic Init?

By | September 15, 2014

Sam BentleyIn 1921 the actor Rodolfo Alfonso Raffaello Pierre Filibert Guglielmi di Valentina d’Antonguolla, or has he’s more commonly known, Rudolph Valentino starred in a film called the Sheik and in doing so made millions of women weak at the knees and probably wet around the gusset. Causing unseemly thoughts among the fairer sex and probably a few marital problems as women found an outlet for their sexual fantasies in the movie theatres of the day Valentino proved two things with his portrayal of the sultry, masterful Sheik Ahmed Ben Hassan; First that women had fantasies as well as men and that those fantasies were not just limited to their husband.

Far from it in fact. Valentino’s popularity came from his character’s mystery and exotic nature. Off-screen the mystique of the infinitely desirable actor continued long after his premature death at the age of 31 in 1926 from pleurisy following a collapse caused by appendicitis and gastric ulcers. Not the ending he would have perhaps written for himself but certainly one that created a great outpouring of grief and ensured his legend endured, dying as he did at the height of his popularity.

But this post isn’t about Valentino as such, he simply illustrates that we all, male or female have an appetite for exotic fantasies. It’s escapism and a while they may not always be entirely sexual in nature our fantasies are by their nature built from desires that are often outside our actual experience and represent the aspirations that we perceive capable of delivering us the most pleasure. Whether they would or not is irrelevant especially because fantasies by their nature most often are never fulfilled and the pleasure they provide doesn’t necessarily derive from an ultimate fulfilment of a specific fantasy.

So why am I writing this post? Well this is a sex blog and to be frank I’d like to know if any of our readers have any fantasies about exotic lovers that remain unfulfilled after many years of bubbling quietly under the surface  … or even have been fulfilled; Was the real experience as good as the fantasy?