Where Are The Boundaries Of Sex?

By | December 10, 2008

“Lay on, Macduff, and damned be him who first cries ‘Hold! enough!'”
from The Scottish Play By William Shakespeare

The boundaries within a relationship are difficult to define and even more difficult to push unless you and your partner have an hoest realtionship. It is so often the case that for one reason or another people feel they can’t discuss certain aspects of their sexuality with their partner.

Without being able to discuss your passion, your lust, your fantasies you could find yourself feeling constrained and unfulfilled, always wanting something that you feel your partner would be unwilling or unable to provide. That can lead to resentment and that leads to unhappiness.

It’s not to say that you should epect your partner to agree to explore the apects of sexuality that you feel drawn to. A mere curiosity towards something shouldn’t be allowed to create friction, a polite and reasoned refusal shouldn’t offend. It’s about compromise.

So when should you become worried if you do talk to your partner and they refuse to walk the same path of sexual exploration as you?

Well, all sex should be consenting. No exceptions.

That to me means that if you want to do something, and your partner doesn’t and you can’t accept that then you have to start asking iyourself about the form your relationship is taking. It doesn’t mean the end of the realtionship but it certainly can alter the dynamic between you both and that has to be dealt with rather than ignore.

BTW, this wasn’t menat as a relationship counselling post, just a few thoughts about discussing your mutual sexuality with your partner.