Kinky And Getting Kinkier

By | March 5, 2009

Kink like most aspects of sexuality is a relative thing. What’s kinky to some is normal to others and what some individuals take as a natural part of their sexual relationships can leave less adventurous people aghast at the perceived extremity of the kink involved.

What is and is not seen as part of the “normal” panoply of sexual behaviour is always changing.

Anal sex is a good example. Its acceptance has evolved over time, reviled in some cultures, embraced in others. In ancient Greece it was part of the range of sexuality that a relationship might encompass. Yet in the Jewish, Christian and Muslim faiths for example it is entirely forbidden, a sin plain and simple.

So why do so many ostensible Christian nations for example now accept anal sex as a normal part of sexual play? Why in other cultures that officially forbid anal sex is it tacitly accepted? – so long as you keep quiet about it. I’ll leave you all to draw your own conclusions.

BDSM play is an example of sexual expression that has become more mainstream in the last few decades, at least in its milder forms. When you can buy handcuffs, whips and restraints in a shop next door to one selling clothing on the high street that has to be an indication that society is more accepting. Even if it does so by watering down BDSM and regarding it as a light-hearted addition to our collective bedroom vocabulary.

Although The Marquis De Sade and Leopold Von Sacher Masoch may be key to the way in which society regards D/s and BDSM relationships there’s a lot more to the evolutionary path to broader acceptance than their undoubtedly important contributions to the cause. Sexuality does not emanate from specific individuals, even if those individuals acted as points at which ideas and thoughts about kinks coalesced and crystallised.

If you’re anything more than a little adventurous the level and range of kink in your sexuality increases over time. Where it stops is only limited by your personality that of your partner(s).

I find it amusing that society as a whole sneers at those amongst us who push the boundaries, but simultaneously is drawn to watch and seek out stories, accounts and images of the very acts they say they abhor. Take Max Mosley, sections of the media decried his “deviant” sexuality, but were more than happy to sell papers off the back of it because they know there is an insatiable appetite within the public at large to read about such things. An appetite that those consumers of such media output are only able to satisfy by proxy.

An appetite that they might best be advised to satisfy by trying a little kink out themselves.