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How far would you go to get laid?<\/p>\nHow far would you go to get laid?<\/p>\n
I think most of us have told little lies to ingratiate ourselves with someone else for all sorts of reasons, not just sex. I will not call them white lies because a lie is a lie whatever motive you have for telling it. And that\u2019s the point it\u2019s the motive behind the lie that\u2019s important.<\/p>\n
Now if a lie was just to get you into bed with someone I\u2019d have a problem with that. But am I alone in thinking that if you lie to spare someone\u2019s feelings, not for your own ends then that\u2019s not so bad? I\u2019m not talking about something life changing here but perhaps \u201cYes that\u2019s a lovely dress\u201d or \u201cI don\u2019t think she\u2019s prettier than you \u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
Actually the last one is quite an interesting lie. Whereas anyone can make a fashion mistake, and believe me I\u2019ve made a few in the past and have oil rags that used to be shirts to prove it, you can\u2019t change the way you look. In this superficial world we live in that often gets forgotten and while there may be women who you find more physically attractive than your partner that\u2019s not what they want to hear. Attraction is about the whole package, personality as well as physical attributes and none of us need to hear that we aren\u2019t as hot as someone else when we need reassurance from our partner.<\/p>\n
Telling your partner they are hot is a good thing, because even if they take it as meaning physically your motivation for doing it is because you find their whole packaged attractive.<\/p>\n
Personally I can\u2019t imagine trying to lie my way into bed with someone. Lies have a habit of catching up with you so the potential for disaster is quite high. And do you really want to sleep with someone who\u2019s impressed by you misrepresenting yourself?<\/p>\n
Here\u2019s an example. I used to go out with a girl who I picked up at my brother\u2019s 18th<\/sup> birthday party. I\u2019m older than him by a few years but this girl was about his age. We got talking and she made it obvious that she was very receptive to me. I took her home, via a quiet country road, and found her to be very enthusiastic about letting be get to know her. We didn\u2019t have sex on that first date but we went out a couple of days later and let\u2019s just say she didn\u2019t get back home until the small hours of the next morning.<\/p>\n We went out a few more times but things changed somewhat when someone mentioned that one of her friend\u2019s boyfriends had a sports car \u2013 and that impressed her. I just happened to have a little sporty coupe at the time and it occurred to me that walking across the car park she\u2019d become increasingly excited when she saw which car she was to be driven home in.<\/p>\n I didn\u2019t score because of the car but it was certainly changed her behaviour and despite being a horny guy in my early twenties I really didn\u2019t like the idea that she was competing with her friend and I was a trophy boyfriend of sorts.<\/p>\n So, any thoughts from you guys out there? Would you lie to get laid or have you been lied to and then found out \u2013 what did it do to your relationship?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"