{"id":181,"date":"2006-07-18T21:06:09","date_gmt":"2006-07-18T20:06:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.alexsuze.com\/blog\/?p=181"},"modified":"2006-07-18T21:06:09","modified_gmt":"2006-07-18T20:06:09","slug":"boys-will-be-boys-forever","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alexsuze.com\/?p=181","title":{"rendered":"Boys Will Be Boys, Forever?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img style=\"margin: 12px\" src=\"http:\/\/alexsuze.com\/bloggerimg\/blackbird.jpg\" align=\"left\" \/>We went out for lunch today at our local hostelry. Pint of Old Speckled Hen and a local burger, so fresh it was still mooing. Suze had the cod and chips. We sat outside, check out the weather over here it&#8217;s fantastic. The pub&#8217;s across from the local church, so the aspect is pleasant making for a restful meal.<\/p>\n<p>A group of hikers sat behind us while we were waiting for our food. Seven men all in their 30s and early 40s. Salary men by the sound of it.<\/p>\n<p>They were all office workers, you could tell, making fun of the venerable and ever-pleasant barman in the pub. Because of course they are from the city, and these yokels \u2026 you get the idea, my hackles were up. I work in an office but I don&#8217;t see my self as better than anyone else who has a different lifestyle. The barman for example works 14 hour days and longer at Christmas, he&#8217;s always welcoming, no matter how tired he is and today he looked ready to drop. The Pub&#8217;s an old stone building with bad ventilation. The kitchens seem to heat the whole place through so it felt like a furnace, and still we get a cheery smile and banter when we walk in.<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, the boorish blokes moved off the barman and onto village life in general. Various cringe-worthy Cornish-Cum Norfolk accents followed attempting to poke fun at the village inhabitants. I was amused mainly due to the fact we live in Yorkshire, not deepest &#8220;Mummerset&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, on to the real point of my post. The men, I&#8217;ll use the term for want of a better one, started showing off about how they spent their respective company&#8217;s expenses when on business trips. Then they moved on to what they got up to\/got away with regarding the wife and extra-marital activities.<\/p>\n<p>It started &#8220;innocently&#8221; enough, with chat&#8217;s about, playing on the Play Station 2 at each other&#8217;s houses until 3am in the morning, with one (absent) member of the gang&#8217;s wife ringing up to check he was there and he was not boffing someone else. &#8220;Oh she&#8217;s jealous&#8221;, commented one of the group. &#8220;She&#8217;s reason to be&#8221;, said another. Apparently this was a regular occurrence for the absent associate. He hand a wandering eye\/hands.<\/p>\n<p>The conversation then degenerated into jibes about each other&#8217;s sexuality, what they&#8217;d get up to while away on business trips given half a chance and eventually the price of first class train tickets.<\/p>\n<p>My question is this. Why do I.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Not feel the need to spend masses of time away from my partner, rather than enjoying the moments I spend with her?<\/li>\n<li>Take advantage of my partner&#8217;s trust and seek out other female company?<\/li>\n<li>Spend the time in the company of men talking down to and about anyone who isn&#8217;t a city dwelling, white male Anglo-Saxon desk jockey?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I grew out of that sort of small minded, mutually back-slapping behaviour when I was a teenager.<\/p>\n<p>It perplexes me that in the UK we seem to have a section of society that regards avoiding work, responsibility and commitment as a way of life. Indeed a laudable goal. Will these people ever grow up, or is this country destined to be populated by sixty year old schoolboys preoccupied with &#8220;getting away with&#8221; things until they draw a pension.<\/p>\n<p>Sorry if that wasn&#8217;t very coherent in places, they really pissed me off.<\/p>\n<p>And the picture? A blackbird I saw in the church across from the pub a few weeks ago. Cute huh?<\/p>\n<p>Oh and SEX tomorrow I promise.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We went out for lunch today at our local hostelry. Pint of Old Speckled Hen and a local burger, so fresh it was still mooing. 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