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I\u2019m a complete believer in freedom of expression and freedom of speech so long as it doesn\u2019t adversely affect another person\u2019s rights to express themselves in the same way. Which is why I suppose it pisses me off so much when I see all the crap in the media about what constitutes the perfect body, or what is sexy, or how \u201chorrible\u201d it is that some celebrity dared to put on some weight and even worse dared to get older.<\/p>\n
A friend of mine once observed that \u201cIf I wanted to sleep with skinny young men I\u2019d sleep with skinny young men, not women who were trying to look like skinny young men.\u201d In this twisted fucked-up world that we inhabit size matters to such an extent that some people will make themselves gravely ill to lose weight.<\/p>\n
In the bedroom men and women are expected to perform in ways that they may not wish to and in\u00a0 some cases are almost impossible. Men should last all night, women should engage in sexual acts even if they don\u2019t really get off on them \u2026it\u2019s not just about appearance and what we get up to in the bedroom either. The media in particular places such emphasis on what people should or shouldn\u2019t do that this media-centric age breads media-centric consumers who start to believe this over-simplified interpretation of fundamentally flawed lifestyle \u201cadvice\u201d.<\/p>\n
Most of the time most of us experience a world where our partners aren\u2019t catwalk models (thank goodness). We make mistakes, we sometimes have sex which isn\u2019t mind blowing, men sometimes cum too early and women refuse to take it up the arse just because their bloke thinks that all his mate\u2019s girlfriends do it. And you know what, until recently this was just the way it was. You weren\u2019t expected to feel bad about it, or inadequate, or as if you needed therapy.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m lucky to be in a long-term, fulfilling relationship with someone who loves me as much as I love her. We have good times, we have great times and yes we have shitty times too. And that\u2019s normal. We are lucky but don\u2019t expect everything to be perfect all of the time.<\/p>\n
You see I don\u2019t believe there is such a thing as a perfect girl (or bloke). All women are different and all of us should appreciate that fact. Treating anyone as inferior because they don\u2019t conform to a narrow stereotype is just wrong. You may like or dislike someone based on your own preferences, that\u2019s different, but to align yourself to what currently passes itself off as the standard by which we are all measured is just wrong. Today it\u2019s painfully skinny girls, a few decades ago it was a fuller figured lady, before that in the 1920s stick thin was in vogue. It\u2019s not just about a person\u2019s figure is it? Some era\u2019s have valued a pale complexion, others black teeth because it proved their owner was rich enough to afford sugar and therefore cause their teeth to rot.<\/p>\n
What you like in a partner should come from within you and not be dictated by others or adopted by you because you feel to do otherwise would make you seem odd.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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