{"id":980,"date":"2008-03-29T11:43:31","date_gmt":"2008-03-29T11:43:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.alexsuze.com\/?p=980"},"modified":"2008-03-29T11:43:35","modified_gmt":"2008-03-29T11:43:35","slug":"the-fetish-within","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alexsuze.com\/?p=980","title":{"rendered":"The Fetish Within"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" vspace=\"5\" align=\"left\" width=\"250\" src=\"\/images\/pvcavatar.jpg\" hspace=\"5\" alt=\"Suze\" height=\"214\" style=\"width: 250px; height: 214px\" title=\"Suze\" \/>Alex and I have a very open and explorative relationship in sexual sense. As you should all be aware by now given that we share most aspects of our daily encounters and bedroom frolics.<\/p>\n<p>However it wasn&#8217;t until I started to read his post <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.alexsuze.com\/?p=979\" title=\"Bound and Gagged\">Bound &amp; Gagged<\/a> that it struck me just how many of us have our little fetishes, perhaps we don&#8217;t even see them for what they are.<\/p>\n<p>For example\u2026raise your hand if you have ever asked your lover to give you sexual tasks or instruction. Again if you have ever participated in being tied or blindfold. I think that would just about make most people raise their hands to either one of those questions or both.<\/p>\n<p>The thing is we don&#8217;t see these acts as being part of BDSM activity, it&#8217;s not all about inflicting pain and the pursuit of extreme torture. I feel there is more depth to it than that. It involves a great deal of mental and physical control, setting your lover specific tasks (duties) perhaps controlling their movement by restraints being applied\u2026and yes a tie does qualify.<\/p>\n<p>I find the psychological aspect of this the more pleasurable. It&#8217;s a huge turn on for me to be controlled by a dominant partner, for him to take total control of a situation. Alex may ask me to give him a blow job and swallow his cum. I will gladly and do that, knowing that it will please him and by return turn me on immensely because I know I am doing something that pleasures him.<\/p>\n<p>So in that act alone I am submitting to him, becoming a submissive and he is dominating me\u2026being a dom. I bet some of you hadn&#8217;t thought about it that way before. To a greater or lesser degree we all participate in some form of BDSM activity.<\/p>\n<p>What really brought this to light was him mentioning my all time favourite film, Nine And A Half Weeks. I know that it isn&#8217;t particularly graphic, at least by today&#8217;s standards anyway but it is the most arousing film and a prime example of a BDSM relationship that has been watched the world over. I&#8217;m sure many people will pull it apart and judge it against contemporary films, but I saw it at a formative stage of my development and the impression will always stay with me.<\/p>\n<p>Now tell me you&#8217;re not in to BDSM. \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n<p>Tags: <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/technorati.com\/tag\/BDSM\">BDSM<\/a>, <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/technorati.com\/tag\/9+1\/2+Weeks\">9 1\/2 Weeks<\/a>, <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/technorati.com\/tag\/9+and+a+half+weeks\">9 and a half weeks<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Alex and I have a very open and explorative relationship in sexual sense. As you should all be aware by now given that we share most aspects of our daily &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/alexsuze.com\/?p=980\" class=\"more-link\">Read More<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[30,3,25],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/alexsuze.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/980"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/alexsuze.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/alexsuze.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alexsuze.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alexsuze.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=980"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/alexsuze.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/980\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/alexsuze.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=980"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alexsuze.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=980"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alexsuze.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=980"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}