Kinky And Proud Of It
Where Does the Kink Come From?
Does a relationship suddenly become kinky or does the kink slip into it slowly, over time? I think that depends on the relationship.
Suze and I have always been honest about our feelings and desires. Though not always kinky. We’re not that kinky now. So if you’re expecting to hear tales of our exploration of fisting, CBT and nipple torture then I’m afraid you’ll be disappointed.
What we have done is try new things that we both feel comfortable with and if we like them we keep doing them. Initially this was just simple stuff like handcuffs and rude food. Then of course there’s role playing. Surely everyone’s done a bit of that.
What really made our sex lives take off and venture from a fulfilling, but relatively vanilla course to an adventurous and seriously experimental way of thinking was blogging.
By adult blogging we have exposed ourselves to different outlooks and influences. We have been able to understand why some people get turned on by things that we would never have considered as erotic. That doesn’t mean that we find the same things arousing, but it does allow us an insight into the sexuality of others and therefore a new perspective into our own urges, fantasies and drives.
We couldn’t go back to our old way of thinking about sex, even if we wanted to. Adult blogging has changed the way our minds work. Or maybe it’s just unlocked the inner kink that was always there. If that’s the case then maybe everyone’s kinky at heart and they just need the right key to unlock that kinkiness?
Enjoy your blog. I am old old guy who invented kinky. In my day my lady and I did stuff that would scare you guys. Most legal, some not! Yahoooo!
Oh dear! Is fisting regarded as kinky? We’ve been doing that since about day one (well, two or three anyway LOL)
Doug, I may be asking you to contribute to this blog. 😉
FC, you are one seasoned pro at this. Lol
What is kinky?
Is it anything but missionary?
Is it oral sex?
Is it sex in a sex swing?
Is it anal sex?
Is it making and using a fucking machine?
Is it being fucked with a strapon?
being watched? watching? swapping? Group?
Kinky is all those things that people with adventure in them want to experience and it is adventure that adds living to life.
It goes along with parachuting, bungee, abseiling, abseiling from a helicopter, canoeing, diving, and all those things which add to the rich tapestry of LIVING life to the full.
It seems to me, Kinky is a word developed by the chickens in life who are afraid to explore the unknown, afraid to trust, and often afraid of themselves. Kinky is intended to have negative connotations to discourage and demean others from enjoying that which they themselves lack the spirit to do/try.
We needed to Either forget the word and just do what comes naturally as often and as different as we wish or embrace and be proud of being KINKY!
I am KINKY !!!.
Alan