Cowboys And Dance Hall Girls

If you look up misogyny in a dictionary there’s probably a picture of a Hollywood cowboy next to it. I used to sit for hours with my grandfather and watch cowboy flicks. He was a big John Wayne fan. Personally I liked Clint Eastwood, but there you go, he was half a century older than me so his points of reference were different.

Wayne’s cowboys and Eastwood’s had little to separate them in their treatment of women. There was romance of a sort but also there was a lot of telling women what to do and throwing them onto the hay before … you know what I’m saying. Whether it was actually depicted or not the masculine cowboy first treating a girl roughly and then having her succumb to his pure maleness was pretty standard.

There’s a lot to be said for a man being forceful, some women like a man to act like that. Some women like their man to act like that some of the time. Of course the point here is that it’s down to the woman to decide what she actually wants her man to do; Not so much a man asking for permission to be macho, an understanding of each others needs and personality.

When I first got started going out with Suze I vividly remember that she wanted me to be a bit more forceful with her. I was holding back because I didn’t want to scare her off by being too passionate and she wanted me to be. A few well timed and chosen words sorted that out.

Of course when you’re a couple for a while you can read your partner’s mood and the need for words of guidance disappears. You adjust your mood and behaviour in bed to suite that of your partner and it all comes together very nicely.

I might try a cowboy story, never done one of those before.