Getting Down And Dirty
You will be aware if you read here regularly that Alex and I have a very open, honest and slightly kinky relationship. It helps to be able to convey to your partner exactly what you like and more importantly what you would like them to do to you.
As a result of this openness we can share experiences that we previously wouldn’t have thought possible. If you had asked me a couple of years ago if I would have contemplated anal sex or giving Alex anal, I would probably have said “no way”. But now it is quite normal for me to test new toys on him. 😉
Likewise I am still a bit of an anal newbie but I’m slowly experimenting with it and enjoying the whole experience and trust that we have in each other, a necessary part of being relaxed enough to go with the moment.
We have tried light bondage, spanking, nipple clamps and so many different flavours during the last few years and it has been a wonderful journey of discovery. One that we have both enjoyed.
Having said all this I still have a problem with dirty talk in the bedroom. I think it stems from watching too many cheesy porn movies. Lol Don’t get me wrong I don’t mind giving instruction during sex but it’s the…well, cajoling part that I have problems with.
Despite being so relaxed in Alex’s company because we have been together for so long and know each others little idiosyncrasies, I still have a problem with the dirty talk. Lines like “Give it to me big boy”, make me cringe. Likewise, if he called me a “Dirty cock slut” or “Dirty whore”, I think it would make me break out in to fits of laughter.
Consequently my sexual vocabulary isn’t as extensive as it could be. “Yes, yes”, seems to get used quite a lot and “Fuck me” too. Then there is my latest, “Just there, oh yes!”.
How comfortable are you with dirty talk, do you find it easy? Also, do you have suggestions that won’t make me giggle. 🙂
I got into dirty talk a few years ago. I have always been careful not use bad language around women and specially my wife. I used some very descript words and started slowly and got a little more aggressive with time. She responded in action rather than words and you could tell that it turned her on to be called a cum slut so I do it. What ever turns her on I do. I asked her to say fuck me hard and now she does it when she wants it that way and it really tuned her on. It helped break down the communicatiion barrier that is so hard to deal with in the bedroom. If it feels good do it.
Suze, I do sympathise. We have exactly the same hang up. I posted about this recenly as well (you’ll find it on ABH!). and the problem is even worse in H’s native tongue. It sounds even more like a cheap 70s porn movie!
You can talk really kinky without using any bad language. Forget all these porn clichés and just talk openly with Alex about spicy stuff 🙂