Global Warming
In true British tradition, let’s talk about the weather. 🙂 This spring has been unusually clement don’t you think? Well you probably think so if you live in most parts of the British Isles. Whether it’s down to global warming or the planet’s cyclic warm and cold periods the effect at the moment is the same; Summer’s arrived early and if the current weather is anything to go by it’s going to be long and hot.
Now I know this has its downsides, water shortages, crop failures, increased demand for energy due to increased use of air conditioning with a consequent increase in global warming … Too serious?
OK try this.
Sea level rise means the beaches are going to be closer to our house, and with the consequential necessity for lighter clothing there’s more opportunity to ogle the opposite sex in Lycra and gossamer-thin cotton. More chance for mutual suntan product application *evil grin*.
Now from those less than serious observations let me ask a serious question. Is it right to ogle the opposite sex?
*Suze jumps up and down waving her hand in the air*
From my point of view I’d say no. But then of course that’s purely subjective and based on the fact that I know I’m not a total pervert (feel free to discuss that point if you wish 🙂 ). My thoughts when I look at a female of the species are appreciative rather than predatory, I like the look of women’s bodies, clothed or unclothed, I’m just a simple man after all.
The question is does the object of my appreciation and observation welcome this attention or do they feel that being eyed-up by a stranger is unwelcome attention, even if said stranger is simply enjoying the colour of their hair, their eyes, how their cleavage looks in that deeply cut top, the shape of a calf …you get the idea … rather than wanting to club them over the head and drag them into the bushes.
I suppose that in itself partly answers the question, how the hell does a woman know that the guy whose eye she just caught doesn’t have his mother in a rocking chair in the basement?
Now I can only speak as a man so ladies, what do you think about when you look at an attractive guy in the street, or office, or through that pair of binoculars you keep handy by the window that overlooks the construction site? Hmmmm?
Suze says “I have a confession to make…I once had the opportunity to watch a woman taking a shower from outside her house…shall I tell you more? 😉“
Hey! It’s going to depend on the woman and the situation. I love attention almost all the time that I feel safe. But that wasn’t always the case. Well mannered glances of appreciation and smiles always worked. But, I also remember those one or two that pinned me against a wall against my will… Many other women have probably had a similar experience.
i ogle ALL the time, mostly @ women though 🙂 to call the weather clement is like saying singapore is a tad warm.
The thing is that a woman doesn’t know if a guy is Norman Bates just by looking, but it may depend on the body language, what the guy is doing at the time. If a guy is walking by a woman, and looks, he’s walking in the opposite direction, so it’s not so scary. If it’s dark, however, and she’s walking home, and he follows her…that’s psycho material. But in a bar (the distant gaze but no approach), cafe, restaurant, it’s hard to tell based on the look. I think it’s all right to look, as long as a person doesn’t offend their partner (if their partner finds that offensive, and some people do find it a threat or something. I don’t know).
When I look at the attractive guy at the cafe, or office (which is as rare as meeting Brad Pitt, I’m mean I know…but it’s only happened twice in five years in the office), I do think ‘he’s all right.’ But if the person is within my personal space for a short interval, then I’ll think many lewd thoughts, especially if I think he’s hot. Everything, from what he’s like to date, to how he’d be like in bed (including all the sexual nuances/combinations), all within a minute.
Suze, do tell us more! I’m sure all men ogle, mostly the way Alex does – in a non-predatory way. Women can be so heart-stoppingly beautiful. I confine my ogling to women, whereas Emm seems to ogle both sexes, despite having no lesbian tendancies she will admit to.
suze do tell! alex i think its all in the context and the impression. I have enjoyed ogles and i have been seriously disturbed by them. I dont have a good set of rules for would be oglers except if she looks uncomfortable then its time to stop. and you dont address ogling the same sex…….
suze…you have to share that with all of us. now, to the subject at hand, i am flattered when i am eyed up and down. of course, i am not looking to be chased or stalked necessarily…but to turn someone’s head is nice. i also wont pass up staring at an attractive man who catches my eye….all sorts of things running through my head. 🙂
You are the cause of global warming…come to texas, no one will notice because of the hot weather. They will just assume it is Texas weather.
Leave now before they find you out. 😉