Openly Sexual
We were out shopping earlier today and something I witnessed made me question my sexuality and just how open I’m prepared to be.
Alex and I were out and about when we came across the Ann Summers store. Well you know what I’m like I just had to pop in and take a look around. I browsed through the underwear and novelty items to the area I was really interested in taking a look around at the back of the store.
This is where they display their battery operated equipment. We rounded a bend in to the toy dept and the sight there took my breath away. Now bear in mind that neither Alex or myself are prudes, in fact we couldn’t be much further away from that.
But what we saw made me question myself. There was a couple in their mid to late 30’s, what’s wrong with that you may say. Only they had also taken in their 3 year old son and a little one in a pushchair.
Now, I don’t shock easily but I must admit I was a) surprised that the assistant was happily chatting to them when it was obvious that the store is not intended for entry by minors and b) that the parents were so brazen as to take the kids shopping for their sex toys.
The couple weren’t just wandering round aimlessly she was actually turning on the vibes and trying them out. No not like that. Lol
It made me ask myself how open I would be if we had kids of our own. I’ve always said that I would be open and honest about sex and sexuality with them. There is nothing worse than gaining your information on sex in the playground where it can be frightening and misleading.
But I do think this is a step too far to be inclusive of you children in your bedroom antics. Until today I thought I was totally open but this made me realise there are just some things that you don’t share with your offspring.
How do you feel about this?
There is a huge difference between being open and stupid.
I remember seeing the same thing at Ann Summers: people shopping with their kids in pushchairs. These little ones may be too young to realise what it is about, it’s still wrong.
People are born with a brain. They should learn how to use it properly.
I know you’ll be wonderful parents.
Wow- that is a little disconcerting! Some of our best swinging friends are just having their first kids so this has been the subject of a lot of dinner conversations. While I am very much sex positive, I think that couples with children have to respect that other people (lifestyle or not) are uncomfortable with kids in that kind of environment. Personally, I think it is a definite no no.
…uh…it’s just sex.
Seriously, think about it like any other bodily function: eating, breathing, defecating…would you abstain from bringing your children into the toilet paper aisle with you while shopping (it’s way nastier than anything you can do with sex)?
You’re falling victim to the taboo that sex is som ultra-protected act that should be provided the utmost respect, when really…it’s just sex.
As long as the kids see that mommy and daddy (who obviously love each…right?!) are only allowed to do it, then I see no problems with it. It’s like any other vice we have, whether it’s smoking, drinking or eating beef…if kids think it’s normal, they are less likely to take it to some level it doesn’t have to go.
You’re uncomfortable and that’s all.
But there’s nothing dirty about sex that you’re children should be “saved” from.
Froggy, you are so right we should not force sexuality on our children. It”s quite different to being open and honest with them when they are old enough to understand.
Sam, Children and sex don’t mix, simple as that.
Rich, see comment above.