Watching Pornography
It comes as no surprise that Suze is quite open minded when it comes to sex and sexuality. I’ll give most things a try once. You notice I put most things. Lol
Watching porn comes as second nature now. Gone are the days of getting those feelings of and embarrassment when viewing it in the company of a guy. I used to go red and feel a little flustered. Now I can sit and watch some of the most hardcore stuff and not bat an eyelid.
Along with the embarrassment used to be the insecurity that my boyfriend was ogling another woman. And from that springs a strange kind of jealousy. A jealousy that shouldn’t really have developed, it wasn’t like he was ever going to bump in to this woman and be seduced by her.
Still, all the same I did feel envious. I suppose that came from my own insecurity at the time. Probably the result of some really bad relationships in the past.
Nowadays I don’t have any of those hang-ups and Alex and I can enjoy a good porn film together. And then afterwards discuss it and review it. How times have changed. Lol
What brought me to this? Well, I just read the following question in the Daily Mail and it triggered this post.
Read the question and see how you would answer the woman.
“My boyfriend wants me to watch a porn film with him. He thinks it will liven up our sex life, but I have no interest in pornography and fear it’s the slippery slope to ever more kinky sex.
On the other hand, I don’t want him sneaking off and watching this kind of stuff on his own. Will it seem prudish if I say no? What should I do?”
I like the fact that the journalist suggested “meeting halfway” (or more). Looking for better quality porn is, to my mind, the answer for this couple.
I am often told just how self-centred many men are as lovers. So it’s good to see the journalist and the comments below suggesting communication, compromise, and creativity, which us men so often lack. I was particularly pleased to see one commenter suggesting that they should be “making their own” porn. That is the inventive type of solution that I admire.
The journalist’s closing comment though let the article down badly:
“Most of the men I know abandoned pornography as they matured and fell in love, because they discovered something far more potent and electrifying”
This may be the journalist’s impression, but I doubt that it is actually true. What I dislike about it is that it turns the thrust of the article from “tolerance, compromise, and creativity” to “men who like porn are immature”, or “bad” in some way.
There is a big divide between men and women over porn (and many issues of sexuality). It’s sad to see someone who probably should know better (having been editor of Erotic Review magazine – which I am not familiar with myself) helping to perpetuate that problem.
first of all i think you are into a wrong guy..
you should ask yourself “what is the point of being with a guy who dosent understans your feeling and compelling you to watch”
is he worth you? it is just a teenage effect . wil you be ablo to be with him for long like this?
besides there are a lot of decent guys out there who just want to share there feeling and want somebody to love and give their partner whatever they lik so please leave him and find someone else who gives you pleasure . and not receive pleasure from you..
Speaking as a boy, if my girl wanted to watch porn, that’s fine. Even when she wants to watch gay boy porn. I wouldn’t feel jealous or inadequate. If it gets her wet, then I’ll probably benefit.
So with the boot on the other foot, hey if porn gets your boy turned on, then you’re probably going to get some fun.