Do You Want A Virgin?
Do you really want to take someone’s virginity? It’s a bug responsibility, well it seems that way to me. Perhaps I’m a little behind the times here but I feel that something like that, that can only be taken once has an infinite value and the privilege of helping someone lose it shouldn’t be taken lightly.
I’ don’t think that you have to cover silk sheets in rose petals, fill the air with exotic scents, light candles and play just the right music … the moment of everyone’s defloration is different and the experience should simply be very special. Special means something different for every. It doesn’t have to be the most earth shattering sex, I suppose now I think about it the old fashioned idea that it should be with that “special someone”, “someone who respects you” or “someone you love” applies either.
What it should be is exactly what you want it to be, fun, gentle, wild, ecstatic … in whichever mix you like.
I for one have never slept with a virgin, or at least if I have done she had an amazing natural talent for sex and I didn’t notice. And although as I’ve said above being “the first” is an honour there are lots of advantages to not being the first.
I am lucky in that my ability always coincided with the experience and expectations of my partner at whatever stage of my sexual development I was at. When I got together with Suze for example we worked together pretty much instantly. But then we work on all levels, emotionally, intellectually and sexually so that helps too. Together we have developed together and our compatibility is pretty much beyond doubt.
Returning to my point about virgins; There are a finite supply of unspoiled hymens out there and while the serendipitous discovery and breaching of that little arch of tissue within your lover would be very special we can all do without the early nervous fumblings getting in the way of a good screw can’t we?
And girls, what about the other way round. Do you want to be the first to be fucked by a virgin cock? Is that the subject of girly chats and female lust?
My husband was when young a very built guy and took a lot of first spoils as he calls it.
He actually ended up with a lot of guilt in many ways because he really didn’t care about the girls in any special regards and learned later on how much importance many girls put on giving away their virginity.
On the other hand he has heard so many horror stories from girls about their first experiences that he feels good that at least they all had good first times without rush or 2 second finishings.
This is a very tricky question.. I would not mind being a lady’s first as long as I knew ahead of time she was a virgin..I have felt for many years that communication is the key to great sex.. You have to be able to not get upset when your partner makes a suggestion on what to do and be willing to ask your partner for certain things you want done..So a virgin would have trouble with this so that would make me not want to deflower her as the saying used to be..mmm .. When I lost my virginity , it was to a slightly older lady with experience.. She was patient and took her time and I must say that it was great..Bit my second sexual experience did not go as well as I was not sure how to unhook a bra so it was kind of funny in retrospect..lol.. Just not sure about whether I would want to be a lady’s first..
My first time was a one night stand and I do not think that he knew. I never told him, anyway, and never saw him before or after, with no desire to do so. It was not exactly the momentous deal that we typically expect it to be.
I have been the first for at least four men, and knew it at the time for three of them. Yes, all got attached and I even married the last one, but I am not sure how much of that is because I was their first and how much was that due to our relationships in general.
I personally do not worry much about it, though I do prefer to know in advance… just to have some idea of what a partner’s expectations are. I have had partners who were “previously experienced” and fabulous in bed and “previously experienced” and lousy in bed. The four no-longer virgins ranged in quality, but mostly were good to fantastic. Again, I am not sure that is so much that they were virgins as much as they were interested in pleasing me. The more adventurous, courteous, and willing, the better.